Have you ever found it hard not to set the record straight when your child tells you that you’re rude or ALWAYS say no and JUST DON’T GET IT? If so – you are completely normal. It can feel almost impossible to resist the urge to contradict and defend against what can feel like an…
Three reasons threats don’t work as a motivation strategy
· You might think to yourself; threats never did me any harm when I stepped out line. So what's the big problem? The thing is, threats work in the here and now but don't give you what you ultimately yearn for ·
I think very few parents can say they’ve never given a threat when faced with a child who just WILL NOT listen. After all, most of us were raised in this way. “Do this..or…” ‘Threat’ may sound like an exaggeration to you. But if a friend or your partner talked to you in this way…
…. Is that strong will is healthy. Commonly we speak about strong will in children as if it is a diagnosis. Something that needs curing. And preferably without us having to look at our own share in how this character trait has become a problem for the family. I think we are all aware that…
The screen use report that appeared on my phone the other day gave me a shock. Mixture of defensiveness and shame washed over me as I stared in disbelief at the hours and minutes that my clever iPhone had worked out that I had been active on my phone. How can this be – when…
Is your child attention seeking?
· How you interpret your child's behaviour hugely influences how you respond and what your child ultimately comes to think of himself. There is often more to 'attention seeking' behaviour than meets the eye. Viewing your child's behaviour in a new light is the key to less conflict and better cooperation. ·
“He’s just doing it to get your attention” You may have heard this type of comment from your partner, parents or friends whenever your child is behaving in ways that push your buttons. You might even have come to believe it yourself. Because what other explanation could there possibly be when your child says A…
“We’ve had none of that behaviour when they were with us”… you hear your mother-in-law say when you pick up your children after a much deserved night off and your children seem to melt down the minute they see you. Explaining to your child’s grandparent that this is what children do where they feel safe…
Good mums are doers; mums who bake with their kids, play tirelessly and get involved in the PTFA and volunteer at their child’s school. Right? And often without breaking out in a sweat. How does she do it all, you wonder!? And rather than realising that there might be a price to pay for spinning…
“You always work“ You never listen” “It’s so unfair I always have to do everything?“ Whether or not these are accusations said about you by your child or your partner – they usually mark the beginning of one thing for most of us: CONFLICT. The power of our inner dragon Our inner dragon awakens –…
Whose script does your family live by?
· Often it is not our own. Bombarded with expert advice on everything from our sex life to co-sleeping it is little wonder it can be hard to feel like a 'good enough mum'. ·
Few things attract more opinion and give rise to more debate than does parenthood and family life. With social media at our finger tips and expert advice, statistics and studies on ‘right parenting’ and the recipe for a good marriage filling every lifestyle magazine – it is perhaps little wonder that we often loose contact…
Go to sleeeeep
· Bedtime is often a family's stress zone. Is there a magic formula to putting kids to bed? What's the 'right' routine? And how do I get my child to sleep? While there is no one size fits all approach to this aspect of family life - doing these 3 things is going get your child to want to cooperate with you ·
For those of us with children under 10 bedtime is often the most dreaded part of the day. You may even feel yourself tensing up as you take your first step towards bedtime – contemplating how to best rally the troops on this last home run before ‘me time’ and Netflix and the sofa calls….
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